Said to his wife 'If you meet your mother you will have divorce 3 times'
18-6-2009 | IslamWeb
Question:
As Salam O Alaikum
i am in problem of devorce, i told my wife ( Actualy i dont want to say and not my niyaa her my mother forced me to say, otherwise i have to leave my mother this what my mother said to me) if you meet with your mother you wil have devorce 3 times at once.sir it is not my intension to give her devorce even that the word devorce was not in my mind i cant think to give her devorce, the only instension was that may be she will affraid and will not meet with her mother and also my mother intension is the same( she told me with witness my sister and brother)..but my wife meet with her mother forcely by her uncle even she dont want to meet with her mother. i want to know that all the three devorce is applicable. please i want to be a satiscation answer i will be thankfull to you..
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad 
is His slave and Messenger.
Your statement to your wife: “If you meet your mother you will have divorce 3 times at once” is considered a promise of divorce, so this does not lead to divorce unless you intended divorce by saying so. Since you did not intend divorcing her by saying so, then there is no problem (divorce did not take place).
It should be mentioned that what should be taken into account in the matter of divorce is the statement or intention of the husband and not the statement or intention of his mother.
On the other hand, we do not know the reason why your mother orders you to prevent your wife from meeting her mother, or that you prevent your wife from meeting her mother, while a group of scholars 
are of the view that a husband has no right in preventing his wife from visiting her parents unless there is harm and disadvantage in her going to them.
Finally, it should be mentioned that when the wife is happy and not worried about her parents, this leads to the happiness of her husband and his children. Besides, the husband should help his wife perform acts of good deeds among which is her being kind and dutiful to her parents.
Allaah Knows best.