Her husband brought his domineering mother to live with them
12-11-2009 | IslamWeb
Question:
Assalamo 3alaykom..
I am a woman married for almost ten months but have had many problems with my husband from the second month of our marriage.Its that he took me to live with him in another country and so i left my entire world for him but he turned out to be so selfish and unappreciateing .The problem is started when his very rich mother decided to sell her house and come live in our flat!i was informed second day of my honeymoon !!and found out that he had planned this with her months in advance without telling me or even giving me the right to choose.(especially that she has many traits that no one can bear and that his brothers wives do not talk to her at all so you can get a hint on what kind of woman she is)The shock was that after continous torturing stresses he lead me to leave my flat to give it to her since she is a very strong women that she cant accept a NO for any reason. I did it for him!ito be able to resume my life as a normal wife or lets say after my bridal happiness was stolen. My problem is simply that I dont trust my husband anymore..without getting into details even on a smaller scale he tends to break all his promises with me..even in a foreign country where i had no one but him he cannot fulfil my needs as a wife and by that i stress on the emotional psychological part.He turned out to be very passive towards our life and what we face to overcome the bad before the good days.All he gives attention to is savings ,money etc and he is always in a frustrated mood.I talk to him for long but he hates logical confrontations.I wanted to have kids but he said he is still not ready and that we have to seek the right time(that never came till now) Before these problems i used to trust him so much to the extent that i would ve given up anything for him.We now live separately as i returned to my home country to resume my studies.I do love my husband and want to be with him but I am really confused .I dont trust or feel secure with his way.Plz help me.
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad 
is His slave and Messenger.
The jurists 
stated that a wife has the right to refuse to live with her parents-in-law (the parents of her husband) or with one of them, and she has the right to refuse if her husband wants to let one of his relatives live with her. She has the right to live in a separate accommodation where she will be safe about her own self and her money and where she can live without being embarrassed or harmed. For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 84608.
Therefore, you have the right to ask for an independent accommodation and you are not obliged to accept that your husband lets his mother live with you, especially if what you mentioned about her is confirmed that she has a bad conduct.
Rather, a husband is obliged to live with his wife in kindness as Allaah Says (what means): {…and live with them in kindness.}[Quran 4:19] Also, he should be keen on satisfying her emotional and psychological needs.
Furthermore, having children is the right of both spouses, so it is not permissible for a husband to prevent his wife from having children without a sound reason.
However, we advise you to be patient with your husband and you should discuss with him these matters in a wise manner and with good words. Also, you may seek the help of some righteous people from your family and his as they may succeed to convince him.
Allaah Knows best.