Learning English in mixed gender circles
19-11-2009 | IslamWeb
Question:
Question
Assalam u Alaikum May Allah (SWA) bless you all. I have question regarding the communication between boys and girls.
Actually i am not intrusted or willing to talk with some boyz but its my compulsion to talk with them because i am learning english language and its teacher order to communicate each other we aoofen talk geral ablout our family natur like dislikes and many topic give our teacher to talk about. i am not comfertable to talk about myself and ask about some one nature and habitsetc. but it is part of uour study we have to friendly talk to each other to influnce our speaking and listning power what should i do at that time. kindly lead me in this regard. I want to spent my whole life in way of my beloved religion islam.
i mostly silence in class which effects bad to others and to teachers. they compel us to talk friendly to each other as it is the bast way to speak some language without hesitation.
Lookind forward for your kind advice.
May Allah bless you and your team.
I wish to spend my life in way of islam as you are. kindly also advice me a good way and manner of repent from Allah.
Jazak Allah
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, is His Slave and Messenger.
You have done well by being eager to lead a life according to what pleases Allaah The Almighty; and we ask Allaah The Almighty to help you achieve your purpose.
As to the mixed education that is common in most universities, it is the direct cause of much corruption. Moreover, the teacher's asking the students to engage in conversation with each other without differentiation between males and females, increases the danger; and if they are also required to talk to each other in a friendly manner, it would become even worse. Please see Fatwa 87469.
We advise you to try to convince those in charge of that learning institution to separate between males and females, in such a way as to make each gender in an independent class, or, at least, to conduct such conversations between the members of each gender solely. If this is done, all perfect praise be to Allaah, otherwise, guarding your religion should be preferable for you. This means that you should stop studying in that institution, and search for another one which does not have such prohibited things; and we do not think that there is a necessity or a dire need to make it permissible for you to continue that study in such a way that displeases your Lord, and because of which you might lose your religion.
As for the means to remain steadfast on the path of Allaah, see Fataawa 85277 and 84807. As for the way to repentance, see Fataawa 86527 and 87903.
Allaah Knows best.