His wife refuses to let his father and step-mother live with them
10-12-2009 | IslamWeb
Question:
As salaam alaikum,
My wife disobeys me whatever i says she do opposite and some time she listen also but i dont like whe she goes against my wishes. ex: i want peace in home between my wife and my father and my mama who is poor lives with us with family i want my mam to live with us as my dead mother last wish.but my wife goes against it. and when i speak to my wife parents the support their daughter and says my daughter is correct what she is doing if u like ur home pople then they will keep their daughte forever at home. this made me more anger as in my presence they r interfearing in my matter and keeping daughter.
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad 
is His slave and Messenger.
It is not permissible for your wife to go out of home without a sound reason except with your permission. In case her parents order her to do that, she is not allowed to obey them because her obedience to her husband comes in priority over her obedience to her parents. If she goes out of your home without your permission, she is a rebellious and disobedient wife and we have already issued Fatwa 85402 in regard to the method of treating a disobedient wife.
However, if the reason of dissension between you and her is that she does not accept to live with your family, then she is right because she is not obliged to dwell with your father and his wife and she has the right to live in a separate accommodation as clarified in Fatwa 84608.
In fact, it is good that you wish that harmony prevails between your wife and your father and his wife but this should not be at the expense of your wife and her rest. However, you may make a separate amenity in the same house for your wife if you wish to stay close to your father and his wife.
Finally, it should be noted that the family of the wife should not interfere in her marital life as long as the wife is able to get her rights because their interference may worsen the situation. On the contrary, they should endeavour to reconcile between the spouses as much as possible.
Allaah Knows best.