Her husband does not want to travel with her to attend her son's marriage
21-3-2010 | IslamWeb
Question:
my son a revert as myself is getting married in another country, my 2nd husband ( not his father) says he wont come with me and my daughters who are 21 and 16 as he is from egypt and wants to go and visit his family for a holiday, not at the same time i add,which will leave me and daughters to travel alone, we will be there a week, my son will then go on his hunnymoon on the 4th day so wont be with us, his fiancee mother died so her family will mostly men, her father is provding a flat for us to stay in in a remote town, (not tourist area) i do not want to go alone i want my husband with me, my son wants him to come and be with him during the wedding standing in as his father, there will only be me and my daughters at the wedding on my sons side, am i wrong wanting my husband with me? im not asking him to give up his holiday to visit his family, all im asking is him to come with us for the wedding which will last a week at most, 3 days for marriage couple days previous for wedding preperatio, my sons fiancee is paying for everything so its not as if he has to pay anything, at the most it will be a plane ticket which i also said i will try to sort out, i see him as selfish for not caring to be with me and protector, and not seeing this special day for my son as important, it really isnt a holiday its my sons marriage, i feel so depressed, i have not told my son that my husband does not want to come, as he has told my husband how he want him with him, and that his clothes will provided for him, he wants him with him in the mosque etc, my husband said to me that he misses his family in egpypt and that if he has a holiday it will be to visit them only, i understand him wanting to go there, but why does he not see my sons marriage and happiness and my happiness as not important? he really dont see my travilling and being alone in a strange country with no marahm important, my son wont be with me he will marry then hunnymoon help plz, i need advice salam
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad 
is His slave and Messenger.
Even if your husband is not obliged to travel in order to attend the marriage of your son, he should have done so, as this leads to good marital relationship and harmony between husband and wife. Moreover, this would achieve your son’s wish that your husband will be standing besides him and there is no doubt that this will have a positive effect on your son.
However, it is not a condition in you residing in that country to have a Mahram; it is enough for the country to be safe but you are not permitted to travel except with the company of a Mahram or a husband as we clarified in Fataawa 86565 and 83940.
Therefore, you should continue to try to convince your husband to travel with you, and if he does not do so, then your son may come to accompany you in this travel. For more benefit, please refer to Fataawa 84994 and 88582.
Allaah Knows best.