Her husband criticizes Sharee’ah and wants her to work
12-9-2011 | IslamWeb
Question:
Assalamu Alaikum Dear Sheikh, jazakhallah for answering my previouse quetion about my husband who use the bank interest & not paying his zakaa, missing prays,listening to music,getting angry only when remiding of islam... since I asked him to pray properly becuse thiking that might correct him.. he is asking me to find a job.. in order to show me how people go out get tired.anyway he always want me to work & earn.I said it's not compulsary for me to work in Islam. he is saying 'what a unfair religon is that,only men to work'. he is a qulified accountant. and he is telling now it's less money to save for future of the children. I pray all my prayrs on time & pray sunnah prayers, witr & thahajjud.read quran, I try learn undersand quran on internet. I fast on modays & thursdays. I love ur web page, I listen to mufti menk,{jewel of quran - I love } sheikh salah... lectures. I try my best to make Allah happy. this annoys him. I cook for him, clean, wash all cloths, Iron & I dont show him a angry face even. I go to bed with him when he want. I had bath early mornings 3.30am in winter days also.because I want to make Allah happy. now few weeks he doest call me to sleep, saying that I'm in a differant world.but it's not true. when he put music, I really hate him. I dont go near by even. when he does unislamic talk or things I really hate him. Is it harram to hate my husband? I too a human I naturally comes..I love Islam.It gives me peace of mind. I cant make my husband happy by making Allah unhappy.he doesnt listen to any islamic thing. even fridays he to to a arabic mosque. where he does'nt undersand the sermon.sometimes he is good to me,sometimes he is bad to me. Now please tell, how to live with my husband..? can I refuse to go to work...? may Allah reward you well! l
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, is His Slave and Messenger.
There is no blame on you to dislike your husband so long as he is in the state that you have described, because he, indeed, deserves to be disliked under Sharee’ah. No doubt, his statement: “What an unfair religion is that” is major disbelief that takes him out of the fold of Islam, we seek refuge in Allaah from that! Grave is a word that comes from his mouth, he tells but a lie. Allaah The Almighty Says (what means):
• {Indeed, Allaah orders justice.}[Quran 16:90]
• {It is Allaah who has sent down the Book in truth and [also] the balance.}[Quran 42:17]
The balance stands for justice. According to Qataadah, Mujaahid and Muqaatil 
justice is called balance because a balance is an instrument of fairness.
Allaah The Almighty also Says (what means): {And the word of your Lord has been fulfilled in truth and in justice.}[Quran 6:115] So, to accuse Sharee’ah of injustice is to attribute lies to the Book of Allaah The Almighty and the indisputably unquestionable facts of Islam. But he may mean, by this statement, that your understanding of Sharee’ah is far from justice.
Anyway, it is well-known that the disbelief of either of the spouses is enough to rescind their marriage. However, a certain person should not be judged as a disbeliever unless the conditions of applying disbelief to him are fulfilled and the impediments that prevent applying disbelief to him are removed. For further information, see Fataawa 87963 and 91707.
In any case, it is due on your husband to repent to Allaah The Almighty. We have previously clarified that your maintenance is due on him. He has no right to ask you to work and earn money, since your maintenance is due on him according to his ability. For further information, see Fataawa 91310 and 86646.
Allaah Knows best.