Ruling on refusing marriage proposals from married men

9-1-2024 | IslamWeb

Question:

Asalamulakium rahmitAllah wa Barakatuh, id like to know kindly, am I sinning if I refuse to meet with proposals from men who have a wife already because of the hadith (there will be fitna on the earth if a good person comes along for marriage and he is refused.) Does that count in refusing a proposal because i may not handle bring a second wife? I don’t mind so much but I would like to be around my husband and I am an over thinker and I’m afraid I would think to much about it while he was at his 1st wife’s home. Can I just accept the multiple wives arrangement isn’t for my personality. Jazakium Allah khayre

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Answer:

All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, is His slave and Messenger.

The mentioned Hadeeth does not obligate a woman to marry a man of good morals and religion if she dislikes marrying him for another reason. There is nothing wrong with refusing marriage to a man who is already married to another woman, and you will not be sinful for it. However, you should weigh the benefits and harms and choose what is most suitable for you in your circumstances.

Allah knows best.