Sex between spouses
9-10-2001 | IslamWeb
Question:
1. What are the limitations on making love to my wife? 2. What's the Islamic point of view and rules on approaching my wife and making love to her? 3. What's the Islamic rule on making love to my wife in her anus?4. What about sucking and licking her genitalie and sucking my manhood? 5. What if we love sucking and licking each other, is that ok?
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad 
is His slave and Messenger.
The husband and the wife can both of them enjoy each other’s body. Allah says: {They (your wives) are body cover for you and you are the same for them.} [Quran 2:186]. Allah also says: {Your wives are a tilth for you so go to your tilth when and how you will.} [Quran 2:223]. However, one should put the following two conditions into consideration: First, he should avoid what is made unlawful by the Islamic law: A). Making love with the wife in her anus which is a major sin and a sort of homosexuality. B). Making love with your wife in her vagina but during her menstruation period, because Allah says: {Keep away from women during menses and go not unto them till they have purified} [Quran 2:222]. What is meant here is having sex with them. The same rule is true for the confinement period till the blood stops and the woman takes a bath. Second, one should make sure that the manner in which he makes sex is conform to the Islamic ethics, which are the best morals. As for what you mentioned, i.e. sucking, licking or oral sex, there is no clear evidence from the Qur’an or Hadith concerning them. The scholars of Islam differed on this matter. Some believe that it is forbidden, others believe that it is lawful. Allah says: {Your wives are a tilth for you, so go to your tilth when or how you will}. [Quran 2:222]. This means in any manner that suits you both but in the place of the tilth which is the vagina. It does not mean anywhere and anyhow. There is a trace from the Prophet (Blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) and his companions that backs up this view. One should be cautious not to swallow some dirtiness, as the man might ejaculate in his wife’s mouth. Allah says: {Truly Allah loves those who turn unto Him in repentance and those who purify themselves.} [Quran 2:222]. This means those who keep themselves above the dirty and the filthy things, which are the cause of forbidding the menstruation period and any part which is not the vagina. This kind of pleasure is far from the natural dispositions that Allah has created us with. Moreover, a tongue that supplicates Allah and reads the Qur’an should not also get in touch with those parts of the body which are a source of some impurity. And indeed what Allah has made lawful for us is enough for any normal person.
Allah knows best.