Frigidity in Marriage

26-12-2001 | IslamWeb

Question:

My wife is not easily aroused sexually while I am the opposite. She does not want to use medicine to help us be more capable. What is the solution?

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Answer:

All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.

Try to convince your wife to take the medicine that arouses her sexual desire as to make you enjoy having sex with her, provided that the medicine is not harmful for her in anyway, neither now nor in the future. If she does not accept to take this medicine, you can marry a second wife as Allah Says (what means): {…then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one or those your right hand possesses. That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice].} [Quran 4:3]

If you cannot marry a second wife for some reason, then we advise you to be patient with your wife and seek the reward of Allah for that patience. But if you feel that this situation might lead you to committing Zina, then you should divorce her and marry a woman who could satisfy your sexual needs.

Allah knows best.