Problems with his father's new wife

9-2-2005 | IslamWeb

Question:

I have a question concerning my father's new wife. I haven't seen my father since 1997 at this time my father was married with other woman but she died, may Allaah be mercy with her. She was very good. They got 5 children together. This new wife my father has been married with about 5 years. The problem is no one of the children likes her and my father knows he made a mistake to get involved with this woman and they got one daughter. The problem with this woman is she has no Sabr she shouts much about small things. And I feel really sorry for my brothers and sisters. There is no Noor in the home. She prays but she is not good pleased what can we do to make her better. I know no one is perfect everyone has there wrong, but this woman has too many wrong may Allaah help her. She don't like when hit her daughter on the fingers when she do something not good. What shall we do with this woman?
Answer:

All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) is His slave and Messenger.

 

First of all, we draw your attention that not seeing your father since 1997 is considered as cutting ties with him and being rude to him. So, you have to repent from this act if not seeing him was not due to a sound religious reason. But if this was due to a sound reason like being in another country and not being able to travel, and the like, then we hope that you are not sinful.

As regards the ill-treatment of the wife of your father to your brothers, then you have to advise her in a good manner and with wisdom hoping that Allaah will guide her and rectify her behaviour so that she would treat your brothers kindly.

You may make use, in this regard, of beneficial books and tapes on upbringing. Besides, you may supplicate Allaah to straighten her affairs. If you do so, you will find fruitful results, Allaah willing, especially that you have mentioned that she prays; this implies that she is on much good.

Allaah Knows best.

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