Wife supplicating Allaah to reunite her with her immigrant husband
10-8-2006 | IslamWeb
Question:
Asalaam alaikum wa ramatullah. Please help me out with this. I'm a married woman,but i have been living with my family in in country now because of visa issues of te country where my husband is.But i'm having real problems with my family home. There is loud muslim, satiliteTv channels, noice here and there non maharaam men walking in and out. I love my family so much and when i'm not with them i miss them a lot. But because of what is going on in the home. Sometimes it makes me really sad that my family is going thru this and they do not listen no matter how many proofs you bring to them to show them its haraam. Sometimes as well i pray hard to get back to my husband because of this. I'm now looking forward to going back to my husband to a nice peaceful home. Then i think again, i'm I praying for the wrong thing because i'm not supposed to cut ties with my family? But its not that while i'm my husband i do not talk to them.I will inshaAllah talk to them frequently as i always do while i'm not with them. please advice on the situation.Thanks
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger. We ask Allaah to exalt his mention as well as that of his family and all his companions.
It is permissible for you, dear questioner, to supplicate Allaah to reunite you with your husband. This is not a supplication for cutting relations with your kinfolks, especially that you are doing so to run away from a place where many acts of disobedience take place, such as mixing of the two sexes and watching satellite channels.
Moreover, you are obliged to advise your family about the evil of watching satellite channels, and entering of non-Mahaarim (i.e. Mahaarim is the plural of Mahram, who is a spouse or a person whom one is permanently prohibited from marrying due to suckling, marital, or blood relations) to the house. You should clarify to them the ruling of Allaah and His Messenger 
about this matter, and that Allaah ordered us to lower our gazes and forbade us from free mixing with the other sex. You should advise them kindly, using wisdom, so that Allaah may guide them, and thus you will be rewarded for their guidance. Furthermore, you should never stop or be weary of extending your advise to them. You have an example to follow in Prophet Nooh (Noah) 
who called his people for 950 years and was never give up or tired.
In addition, you should wear your Hijab in front of men before whom you are required to do so, and you should not allow any one of them, even if he is a close relative, to enter a place where you are in without permission or while being alone with him. Indeed, the Prophet said (to men): "Beware of entering a place where women are alone." [Al-Bukhari and Muslim] Furthermore, the Prophet said: "No man should stay in seclusion with a woman to whom he can lawfully be married, except in the presence of her Mahram." [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 84281 about the prohibition of free mixing between the two sexes, and Fataawa 85669 and 83209 about how to deal with non-Mahaarim.
Allaah Knows best.