Wants to advise her friends who lead a western life
26-2-2007 | IslamWeb
Question:
Aslamu Alikum W Ra7mat Allahy W barakto, I have a friend who likes to go to parites, hang out with guys..usualy what "modern" and "free" girls do these days. She doesnt go to the extreme and actauly does anything serious with these guys but as she says they r "just her friends". I use to send her islamic emails to help her...it worked for some time..she started praying and even thinking about wearing the hejab and now this is all gone. I am wondering do i get zanb for not helping her out more??? I mean i have many friends who r like that. And sometimes i just sit and do nothing. Not becuase i dont want to..bc i know they will not like me telling them what to do. Or Simply bc they have a set ideaology about what they r doing (that its not bad) and wont change. I honestly do not want get zamb for this. And i know that if a muslim see's something haram and not do anything about it...they get asked y they didnt do anything to change it...So can u please advise me of what to do??
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger. We ask Allaah to exalt his mention as well as that of his family and all his companions.
We ask Allaah to reward you the best for your great concern to call your friend towards Islam and to fulfill the duty of enjoining good and forbidding evil. In fact, this is a characteristic of a believing woman. Allaah Says (what means): {The believing men and believing women are allies of one another. They enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong.}[Quran 9:71], may Allaah increase your eagerness to spread virtuousness.
There is no doubt that giving good advice to a Muslim is a part of belief. The Prophet 
said: “The (essence of) religion is (offering) advice." If a Muslim sees another Muslim doing something which may harm him in this life or the Hereafter, he has to advise him wisely and sincerely. If he accepts the advice then this is what is required; otherwise, the adviser has fulfilled his duty and becomes acquitted from sin. However, the adviser should not abstain from advising his brother as long as he expects that he will benefit from his advice and will not harm him. Therefore, you should deal with your friend on this basis. For details see Fatwa 84348.
As for other friends, in principle, advising them is compulsory. Not receiving your advice or deeming that what they practice is correct, is not a religious impediment that prevents you from forbidding them from their evil acts unless you fear that forbidding them may lead to a greater evil. In this case, it is better to abstain from forbidding them from their evil acts.
A believing woman should not befriend such young ladies, because it is dangerous for her religion. The Prophet said: "Do not keep company except with a believer, and only a pious person should eat your food."
Allaah Knows best.