In love with a man who confessed to be a bisexual
24-5-2007 | IslamWeb
Question:
Assalamualaikum.I had a boyfriend and we have been together for more than 1 and a half year. Recently, he confess to me that he is bisexual and that all this while he did not take our relationship seriously up till now.He wants to be serious as he realise that he really love me for who i am and he wants to be honest and truthful. He did not tell many people about his "gifts" as i would put it.He is more aroused towards men than women and i totally cant "turn him on". He says that no matter how hard he wants to change, his mind says NO to men but his body is reacting to the same sex as him. And the only thing that is holding him back is his fear for Allah and Islam as his faith. As his girlfriend, I really do not want him to cross the line but i do not know what to do. I love him so much but i do not know how to support him and get him attracted to women. I am confused and i do not know what to do. Just because he is bisexual, that does not mean he should be deprieved from the love i want to give him but as a woman, I need a man that can satisfy my needs in future.Is there any advice you can offer? Maybe counselling for the two of us?For me,it is just ironic how he can fall in love with me for real and not feel like a real normal man.
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad 
is His slave and Messenger.
First of all, you should know that it is forbidden in Islam for a woman to establish an affectionate relationship with a marriageable man. Therefore, you are both obliged to repent to Allaah and immediately cut this relationship. Furthermore, it is not permissible for you to converse with him except for a need; you are not permitted to talk with him especially about the matters which you mentioned in the question. For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 81356.
If we assume that he proposes to marry you but you fear that if he marries you, he will not keep you chaste, then we do not advise you to accept him as a husband and there is nothing which Islamically prevents you from refusing to marry him. In such matters, you should not be dragged by your affections, as this could lead to unpleasant future consequences, like divorce and the like.
It should be noted that a man who is tempted by men has a kind of disease, but if the matter is just restricted to feelings and the person repels his thoughts and keeps himself chaste, then he is not sinful for having these feelings.
Therefore, he should earnestly ask Allaah to repel these thoughts from him, and he is permitted to seek the help of specialist psychiatrists as they may cure him, thanks to Allaah.
For more benefit, please refer to Fataawa 85918 and 83746.
Allaah Knows best.