Question:

It has been almost three years of our marriage. My husband and I are avoiding to have children till the mid of this year due to the fact that I have missed fasts to complete before the Ramadan of 2013 starts. However, my mother and others are really concerned of the fact that we don’t have children yet. Is it allowed for me to tell my mother ( she is especially very worried and fears there is some fertility problem) that we are currently avoiding to have children and intend to try in a few months or is this matter strictly between husband and wife and no one not even the mother of the daughter is supposed to get a hint of? I ask you for sincere guidance since my mother is after me to tell her why we don’t have children yet and she gets very angry and upset. Conversations with her are very difficult.

Fatwa:

All perfect praise be to Allah, the Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad is His Slave and Messenger.

There is nothing wrong with telling your mother the reason that made you delay pregnancy. This is not part of the secrets of marital life which are forbidden to be revealed. If the couple agrees to delay pregnancy for a specific period of time, due to some perceived benefit, there is nothing wrong with that.

However, if the woman has some fasts to fulfill from Ramadan, but does not fulfill them due to pregnancy until another Ramadan arrives, then she is excused and is not required to do anything but fulfill them at a later time.

Based on this, we do not recommend that you delay pregnancy for this reason, considering the long time you have been married. Likewise, pregnancy will be a way to dutifully please your mother and remove her worries.
For more benefit, see Fatwa 81939.

Allah Knows best.