A wife should help her husband be kind to his parents and siblings
17-5-2011 | IslamWeb
Question:
Assalam alykoum I have a big problem I can no more communicate with my husband, I am very sensitive and my kids have to support the consequences. The discord is based on the following point : before getting married my husband did not inform me about the situation of his father and its consequences. His father has another wife in Morocco and he has to be there so my husband has to take care of his mother, brothers and sisters. We always disagreed regarding this point. I don’t want to talk about that with my own parents because I don’t want to make them preoccupied by my situation. What should I do ?
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad 
is His slave and Messenger.
First of all, we ask Allaah to protect your family, and make you and your husband prevent the reasons of dissension, and protect your progeny and make it a comfort to your eyes.
Dear sister, we think that the matter is easier than what you imagine, but because of you being sensitive, you consider it to be a great matter. Therefore, we advise you to take it easy and not make this matter a reason of dispute as this is of no benefit to the entire family.
As a wife, you have the right to ask your husband to fulfill your rights of spending on you and the like; for more benefit on the rights of spouses towards each other, please refer to Fataawa 83157 and 85308
However, you have no right to object to him taking care of his mother, brothers and sisters when his father is absent. Rather, objecting to this is objecting to good and righteousness.
Moreover, the husband is not Islamically obliged to inform his wife that his father is travelling and that he needs to take care of his family. Rather, he is Islamically required to be kind and dutiful to his parents and relatives.
On the other hand, a wife should help her husband in being kind and dutiful to his parents and relatives and by doing so, she will earn the love of her husband, and so, his respect for her will increase.
Allaah Knows best.