His family cut relations with him for kicking his disobedient brother out of his house
22-1-2007 | IslamWeb
Question:
As-Salam-u-Alaikum Wr. Br. My parents and my brothers and sisters have cut the relationship with me and my family since last one year When I try to call my parents they do not reply and cut phone. The reason of cutting the relationship with me is my younger brother who was living with me in my house his age is about 40 and he is not doing any job so far. His main job is to do backbiting at home make problems in brothers and sisters etc. He as misbehaving with my wife and children and some time with my father and sisters and brothers also. I was fedup with his behavior so I decided to kick him out of the home . For this reason my father and mother and all brothers and sistes have disconnected relationship with me. Since last 30 years I was supporting my parents and arranged marriages of sisters and help brothers to get job and so many other things i did for the welfare of the family. I was the most obedient among my fathers children. Now all of a sudden due to kicking out of the brother from my home my parents left my home and living with another younger brother . My question is kicking out of brother is right or wrong My parents decision to live my house living my children alone (I live in Jeddah ) in India is right or wrong. Am I doing any disobedience to my parents by kicking out brother. After kicking out from home I told that I will be responsible for his all expenses and I will pay for him. I did not do any hard to my parents and brothers and sisters Why they have taken such a drastic action to go from my home and to completley cut the relationship with me as if i did not forn to my father and mother. I got this reward for my full obedience to parents. The kicked brother was treating my wife and my children in a very bad manner and using dirty and filthy language . For how long I had to tolerate this problem . So at last after deep thinking I had decided to keep him out of the my home. kindly advise me what to do in this situation. Thanks
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger. We ask Allaah to exalt his mention as well as that of his family and all his companions.
If what you mentioned in the question is confirmed that your brother behaved un-Islamically, like backbiting, causing the cutting of family relations and other misconduct towards your family, and you kicked him out of the house because of all of this, then you are not sinful, Allaah willing, for doing so. This act [kicking him out] by itself is not an act of disobedience to Allaah and it is not considered as severing kinship relations, which dispraised. Your parents should not have deserted you and left your home just because of this, if it is confirmed that they did so. It is also not permissible for your brothers to cut relations with you because of this.
Therefore, we advise you to be wise and try to solve this problem, as it is religiously required for relatives to be as loving and affectionate towards each other as possible, especially with the parents, because their right is great. No matter how kind and dutiful you were towards them, you would not have fulfilled their rights as you should, therefore, you should not remind others with your favours upon them or upon anyone else as this nullifies the reward of one's deeds.
For more benefit on being kind and dutiful to the parents, please refer to Fataawa 86620 and 84942.
You should also be careful not to mistreat your parents even when they mistreat you, because if you mistreat them you are severing relations with them. For more benefit on severing the relations with parents, please refer to Fataawa 84723.
You should earnestly supplicate Allaah to help you in reconciling with them, and you may seek the help of some pious and righteous people and those who may influence your parents and your brothers and sisters so that Allaah may reconcile between you.
As regards your statement "I got this reward for my full obedience to parents", we hope that you are not saying this as a way of boasting and reminding your parents with your favour upon them. You should know that Allaah tests people with whatever He wishes in order to test their hearts so that they would be patient -as patience is an act of worship- and so, He will wipe out their sins and raise their ranks.
For more benefit on the excellence of being patient when afflicted with calamities, please refer to Fataawa 88764 and 87510.
Allaah Knows best.