Some Social Occasions
The Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, marries Hafsah bint ‘Umar, may Allah be pleased with them
‘Umar bin Al-Khattaab, may Allah be pleased with him, said
When Hafsah bint ‘Umar, may became a widow after the death of [her husband] Khunays bin Huthaafah As-Sahmi, may Allah be pleased with him, who was one of the Companions of the Prophet and died in Madeenah, I went to ‘Uthmaan bin ‘Affaan, may Allah be pleased with him, and offered Hafsah, may Allah be pleased with her, [in marriage] to him. He said, “I will think it over.” I waited for a few days, and then he met me and said, “It seems that it is not possible for me to marry at present.”
(‘Umar, may Allah be pleased with him, added), “I then met Abu Bakr As-Siddeeq, may Allah be pleased with him, and said to him, ‘If you wish, I will marry my daughter Hafsah off to you.’ Abu Bakr, may Allah be pleased with him, kept quiet and did not say anything to me in reply. I became angrier with him than with ‘Uthmaan, may Allah be pleased with him. I waited for a few days, and then the Messenger asked for her hand, and I gave her in marriage to him.
Afterwards I met Abu Bakr, may Allah be pleased with him, who said, “Perhaps you became angry with me when you offered Hafsah to me, and I did not give you a reply?” I said, “Yes.” Abu Bakr, may Allah be pleased with him, said, “Nothing prevented me from responding to your offer except that I knew that the Messenger had mentioned her, and I never wanted to reveal the secret of the Messenger. If he had not proposed to her, I would have accepted her.” [Al-Bukhari]
‘Ali, may Allah be pleased with him, marries Faatimah, may Allah be pleased with her
‘Ali bin Abi Taalib, may Allah be pleased with him, said
The Messenger was asked for his daughter Faatimah’s hand in marriage. Hence, a freed bondwoman who belonged to me said, “Have you heard that Faatimah, may Allah be pleased with her, was requested from the Messenger in marriage?” I said, “No.” She said, “Well, it did happen. What is holding you back from going to the Messenger, and asking him to marry her you?” I said, “Do I have anything to offer her for marriage?” She said, “If you approach the Prophet, he will surely marry her off to you”.
(‘Ali, may Allah be pleased with him, said), “By Allah, she kept on giving me hope until I went to the Messenger . When I sat in front of him, I could not say a word. By Allah, I could not speak due to his majesty and veneration. The Messenger asked me: “What made you come? Do you want anything?” I was silent. He said: “Perhaps you have come to propose to Faatimah?” I said, “Yes.” He asked: “Do you have anything [to offer her as a dowry] so that she would become lawful to you?” I said, “Nothing, by Allah, O Messenger of Allah”!
He said: “Where is the armor that I gave you for protection?” By Allah it was a mere Khatmi armor priced at less than four dirhams. I said, “It is with me.” The Prophet said: “I will marry her [Faatimah, may Allah be pleased with her] off to you. So send the armor to her in order that she will become lawful to you.” The armor was, therefore, the dowry of Faatimah, may Allah be pleased with her, the daughter of the Messenger . The bridal possessions provided by the Prophet for Faatimah, may Allah be pleased with her, was a piece of velvet, a bottle, and a leather pillow stuffed with lemon grass.
Their life was very simple and would tend to be more ascetic than luxurious. The following story depicts how Faatimah, may Allah be pleased with her, was exhausted from work and the response of the Messenger to her when she requested a servant from the war captives:
One day ‘Ali, may Allah be pleased with him, said to Faatimah, may Allah be pleased with her, “By Allah, I have brought in water until my chest aches and Allah has brought some slave girls from the booty to your father so go and ask him for a servant.” Faatimah, may Allah be pleased with her, said, “By Allah, I have been grinding [grain] until my hands have become rough.” She went to the Prophet who asked her what caused her to come. She responded that she had come to greet him – she was too shy to ask him for her need. She went back to ‘Ali, may Allah be pleased with him, who asked her what she did, and she replied that she was shy to ask him.
Therefore, both of them went to the Prophet and ‘Ali, may Allah be pleased with him, said, “O Messenger of Allah, I have brought in water until my chest aches.” Also, Faatimah, may Allah be pleased with him, said, “I have been grinding [grain] until my hands have become rough. Allah has brought us some slave girls so please give us a servant.” Hence, the Messenger said: “By Allah, I will not give to you and overlook the people of Suffah who are suffering from hunger, as I would not then have anything to provide for them. I will sell the slave girls and spend the money obtained on them.” Both ‘Ali and Faatimah, may Allah be pleased with them, returned home.
The Prophet went to them and they had covered themselves with their velvet blanket which when it covered their heads would leave their feet bare and if it covered their feet would leave their heads uncovered. When they saw the Prophet they rose, but the Prophet asked them to remain in their place. Then he suggested that he would teach them something better than what they had asked him for, and they agreed. He said that Jibreel (Gabriel), may Allah exalt his mention, taught him some words: to say “Subhaan Allah (Exalted is Allah)” ten times after each prayer, “Al-Hamdullilaah (praise be to Allah)” ten times, and “Allahu Akbar (Allah is the greatest)” ten times; and when going to bed to say: “Subhaana Allah (Exalted is Allah)” thirty-three times, “Al-Hamdullilaah (praise be to Allah)” thirty-three times, and “Allahu Akbar (Allah is the greatest)” thirty-four times. [Ahmad in his Musnad]
This was the guidance of the Prophet in nurturing his household and relatives. Both ‘Ali and Faatimah, may Allah be pleased with them, were unsuccessful in getting a servant, as the Prophet wanted to sell the slave girls and spend the money obtained on the people of Suffah who suffered from the gnawing pains of hunger. They were also as close to the Prophet as ‘Ali and Faatimah, and to provide them with food was more important than giving a servant to his daughter and her husband.
‘Ali, may Allah be pleased with him, was influenced by the way the Prophet nurtured him. Time passed and he became the caliph of the Muslims and was still influenced by this prophetic nurturing. Consequently, he overlooked this worldly life and its adornment, even though he had the command of the world’s goods and treasures, because the remembrance of Allah The Almighty fully occupied his heart.
He maintained the advice of the Prophet telling us that he never stopped saying such words from when the Prophet said them to him, even during the night of the Battle of Siffeen, as he replied to a Companion to that effect. In the words of Dharraar bin Damrah, may Allah have mercy on him, in the court of Mu‘aawiyah, may Allah be pleased with him, “He shunned the world and its splendor, and loved the night and its darkness. His tears were profuse, and he contemplated for a long time. He would admonish himself and be content with his short clothes and rough food.”