salam alaikum please help me due to family crisis i am staying out of the country i can not keep my wife with me due to less salary & i am doing internet chatting with my wife & using webcam to see both of us during chatting we can not control & our desire i use to show private parts & do masturbation & relase sperm is it permissible show private parts with wife please let me know & help me from sins.

All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad, sallallaahu 'alyhi wa sallam, is His slave and Messenger.

First of all, you should know that masturbating with your own hand and the like is forbidden, and whoever does so is obliged to repent to Allaah.

We have already issued Fatwa 81150 clarifying its prohibition and the means of treating it, so please refer to it.

Therefore, you are obliged to repent to Allaah by immediately stopping doing that, regretting having done it, and being determined not to do it again in the future.

As regards to showing your private parts to your wife via a webcam, it is permissible for the spouses to show their private parts to each other but doing this through the webcam, if it is likely that other people who are linked to your computer and have a webcam as well may see this, is not permissible. However, if it is known that absolutely no one can see this, then this is permissible if this does not lead you to masturbate.

We have asked computer specialists and technicians and we were informed that it is possible for a third person to see two people who are seeing each other via a webcam. Therefore, in our view, it is not permissible for the husband and wife to reveal their private parts to each other via a webcam.

Finally, you should observe fasting because it diminishes sexual desire and weakens the whispers of the devil. 

Allaah Knows best.