salam. my salary is 4 times that of my husband. however i'm giving him access to my bank account as much as he wants. however he's fighting me too much because i gave a loan to one of my best friends claiming that i'm not preserving money well. this loan is 1/5 of my wealth, and i'm sure that my friend will return it. am i wrong if i denied his access to my account?? and if he persists fighting me, for money, may i request divorce, because i'm too much depressed from his attitude??

All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.

We have already issued Fataawa 101899 and 128688 clarifying that the earnings of the wife are her own right and that it is not permissible for the husband to dispose of it [her earnings] as he wishes, so please refer to the above Fataawa. Therefore, you are permitted to prevent your husband from disposing of your money, but you should be wise in doing so, so that this would not cause problems.

Furthermore, your husband has no right to get angry with you for lending money to your friend. Nonetheless, you should not have informed him about this since it causes some problems. That is to avoid disputes between you and him.

Moreover, it is not permissible for you to ask your husband to divorce you just because of the disputes that happen between both of you because of money, and you may avoid these disputes by doing what we mentioned above.

However, if these disputes continue and you are depressed and harmed by this, then you may ask for divorce due to the harm. For more benefit on the cases when a woman is permitted to ask for divorce, please refer to Fatwa 88408.