my husband converted to islam 2 years ago. however since his mother passed away last october, he is blaming Allah non stop, crying alot and stopped praying and started drinking a bit. i asked him if he is no more a muslim but he said he is still a muslim i dont know how to handle it and i want to help him but dont know if he will ever be the good muslim again. what shall i do pls? :( Note: other than not praying a bit drinking beer from time to time, he is a very polite man and does not do any bad stuff

All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.

First of all, you did not clarify to us how your husband blamed Allaah due to the death of his mother and you did clarify to us the reality of this blame. In any case, it is not permissible for a Muslim to be discontent with the Decree of Allaah. Such a discontent neither prevents harm nor does it bring a benefit; rather, it only causes distress and sorrow to the person in this life, in addition to the Wrath of Allaah which he may incur on himself and him  being sinful due to this discontent.

The Prophet said: “The greatness of the extent of the reward is proportional to the greatness of the affliction. When Allaah loves some people, He afflicts them. So, those of them who are content get the reward of being content while those who get angry get the punishment of being discontent.” [At-Tirmithi and Ibn Maajah]

Therefore, you should clarify to your husband the serious of being discontent with the Decree of Allaah and remind him of the importance of being patient when afflicted; in this regard you may make use of the texts mentioned in Fataawa 85445 and 83577.

What is even more abominable and strange, is that he abandoned the prayer due to that as well, while the prayer is something by which a Muslim feels comfort when being afflicted. Allaah Says (what means): {And seek help through patience and prayer, and indeed, it is difficult except for the humbly submissive [to Allaah].}[Quran 2:45]

Moreover, abandoning the prayer is a great major sin to the extent that some jurists are of the view that a person who abandons the prayer goes out of the fold of Islam even if he abandons it out of negligence, even though the majority of the scholars are not of the view that he goes out of the fold of Islam. For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 84235.

Also, consuming intoxicants is a grave major sin and there is great threat for whoever consumes it. For more benefit on the evidence about the prohibition of intoxicants, please refer to Fatwa 81567.

Dear sister, your husband may become again a righteous person as this is not hard for Allaah. So, you should supplicate Allaah to guide him and enable him to repent, and continue to advise him in a soft and gentle manner and you may seek the help of some rational people who may influence him hoping that Allaah will turn him into a righteous man thanks to them.

Finally, if this is achieved, praise be to Allaah, but if he persists on his evil condition, then it is better to ask for divorce as it is no good for you to stay with him. If he accepts and divorces you, then this is what is required, otherwise you may take the matter to an Islamic court or an authority that may act on its behalf in non-Muslim countries, like Islamic Centres so that they would repel the harm off you by divorcing you from him or getting a Khul’ for you.

Allaah Knows best.