A father should not feel shame if his sons support him financially Fatwa No: 210106
- Fatwa Date:13-8-2013
Dear Brother, Asalam Alaikum , I am retired teacher served for 40 years in hyderabad india has written and compiled books on Islam, appealed for publication, but unfortunately I received no response. The reason best know to Allah. I have been suffering for Heart and diabetic aliment since 20 years. I have 2 daughters married (somehow) by His Mercy and three sons I have educated them now earning their livelihood one married. I am a honest God fearing man and I never taken loan or any thing from any members of my family. Though my sons supports us but I feel I it is unfair, and feel Hurt. Please guide me what to do?
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger. We answer your question in the following three points:
1- There is no blame on you that your children spend on you and there is nothing wrong with this. The earning of the child is pure and lawful for his father if he is in need, rather the earning of the child is the best that his parent deserves. For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 1569.
2- Your qualities of being pious, truthful and content and not desiring what is in the hands of others are good qualities to which you should hold fast; as they are a bounty and favor from Allaah.
3- Seek the reward from Allaah for your sickness and be content with the Decree and Predestination of Allaah and with the affliction of not being solvent that Allaah afflicted you with. You should look at the people who are in worse situations than yourself. You should know that Allaah is Merciful to His slaves. Allaah afflicts a person with something and that person thinks that it is a punishment from Allaah while in reality it is a blessing. Besides, you should not show displeasure or feel discontent (with the Decree of Allaah) as this is a sin and prohibited by Allaah Who says (what means): {And leave [i.e. desist from] what is apparent of sin and what is concealed thereof. Indeed, those who earn [blame for] sin will be recompensed for that which they used to commit.}[Quran 6:120]
For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 83577.
Allaah Knows best.