salahu aleykum shiekh, i would like to ask some questions, me and my wife had an argument about my ex wife and things got heated she kept saying that i love her which is not true how can i love someone that i am not married to? sheikh this is what i said to her whilst arguing“ i am leaving you and going to my dads house and maybe other words that i can not remember and i packed my cloths making her think i am leaving her but deep down i did no wanted to leave her maybe i was acting like a child to be honest with you i dint know what was my intention was but i never wanted to divorce her and i did not mention any talaq/ 2) i onece said to my wife whilst arguing about my ex wife “ by Allah that you may be divorced from me i dint do that“ just to concvince but i was liying. i wanted her to believe me, i never wanted her to be divorced from me and i will never open my mouth ever againt to such a thing insha'aalah please sheiklh i am having wasswas and doubts so please correct me if i lost any talaq my allah sw bless you with knowlege and janna.

All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.

Saying to your wife ‘I am leaving you and going to my dad's house’ is not an explicit statement of divorce; so divorce does not take place without having the intention of divorce. For more benefit, please refer to Fataawa 92476 and 121973.

As regards your statement ‘that you may be divorced from me...’, it does not lead to divorce as it is an expression of doubt. However, we advise you to avoid Waswasah (obsessive whispers) and not get carried away with them as they lead to unpleasant consequences. For more benefit, kindly refer to Fatwa 119544.

Allaah Knows best.