Aselam alaikum werahmetulahi weberekatuh... I am a 29 years old muslim girl who got engaged almost two months ago... My fiance lives in us nd i live in one of afican country so, he wasnt present for the nikkah day it was done by his fathers presence on his behalf.... After two weeks of my engagement i asked my fiance regarding the process for the us visa over our phone conversation out of enthusiam to live with him very soon ... But his reply was like this " in a disrespectful way nd in a very high voice why are you asking me this now we just got engaged soon nd this is none of your businness i ll handle it in my own way" i tried to tell him that i asked him this out of wanting to live with him soon which is a good thing for both of us nd that its not good to be in distance for long period but he kept on being angry with me... After our conversation i sent him a message that he doesnt hv a right to shout at me and disrespect me like that just because i asked him that ... After that incident he disappeared for over a month and one day he called me and after an argument we settled the matter and continued on.... But after few days later another incident happened and this time it was because of the reason that i have not replied to one of his messages immediately i expalained to him it was because of a network problem but he disappeared again after texting me that he wishes for me to "have a good life"... I tried to call him but he hasnt replied my calls also my sister called him and he told her that he is busy to talk and told her he will call her back but he didnt till now...its been now almost three months and we dont have any communication... so, at this point can i ask him for divorce??? Please i beg you to give me an advise on this matter ... Jezakumulah kheyren!!!

All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.

If the matter is as you mentioned, then it is permissible for you to ask that man to divorce you. However, we advise you not to rush asking for divorce without endeavoring to reconcile with him; and you may seek the help of some relatives or others in this regard. If there is no way for reconciliation, then divorce will be the last solution.