Explain to me the conditional divorce. If I said to my wife you will not be my wife if you do such and such. (I told my wife a lot of times, more than three times, if you go to your mother this will be the end between us).

Praise be to Allah, the Lord of the World; and blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad and upon all his Family and Companions.
If your intention is to threaten your wife but not to divorce her then what you said was just threats and is not divorce Talaq.
As for your saying "This will be the end between us", it is only a threat and is not considered Talaq (divorce).
For more details on conditional divorce, please read Fatawa: 82348 and 83063.
Allah knows best.