I am sorry for bothering you again and again, but I’ve no choice other than to ask you ‎for query and help as I’ve heard that one should ask those persons whom he deems fit and ‎his heart feels contentment. Question: 1. Can one eat the portion of meat other sacrificed ‎animal if he has made vow (Nadhr). Al-Hamdu Lillah, I give whatever amount I can give in charity at that particular ‎moment, I never give it openly because I am afraid of my heart, that it may wish to ‎be praised, and sometimes a situation arises that I can’t help it give in open, but I rest ‎it sometimes and then my heart feels guilty that why I vent given. And sometimes I want to help people but I vent enough resources to meet their ‎needs, I give them anyway but it makes me sad that I couldn’t help them properly. So ‎help out that how can I get out of this guilt feeling, is it bad thing or good one.‎

Praise be to Allah, the Lord of the Worlds; and may His blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad and upon all his Family and Companions.

If one makes a vow to do good act, he has to fulfill his vow as he had intended.  Hence, if you had the intention of distributing the sheep among the poor and needy, then you have to fulfill exactly what you had intended.  If you had intended to feed the sheep to your relatives and family members, you may eat from it as you are a member of your family unless you had excluded yourself at the time of making vow.

If your vow was a general one, without any specification, it is handled as Sadaqah (charity), i.e. it is given to the poor and needy.  You should not eat from that unless the custom in your area is that a person eats from the animal or food that is made for the poor to fulfill a vow.  Then according to the culture you may eat from that food.

It is better to hide the supererogatory Sadaqah (alms), but it is permitted to make it public.  Allah Says (interpretation of meaning): {If you disclose your Sadaqât (alms-giving), it is well, but if you conceal it, and give it to the poor, that is better for you……}[2:271].

The scholars are of the opinion that if making Sadaqah publicly leads to some legal benefit and the person does not fear feelings of showing off, then doing so is lawful.

Therefore, we advise you to be sincere in your intention, and not to give any attention to the whispers of Satan, who wants to prevent you from good deeds and make you sad.

As long as you want to hide your Sadaqah and do it secretly then continue this practice and do not heed your negative feelings.

Allah knows best.