Marital bliss is the dream of every engaged girl and the goal of every wife. It is a dream and goal which is worthy of us exerting our utmost effort to attain. To reap the fruits of these efforts, we should be aware of the mistakes and enemies which threaten them. The wise person is the one who learns from the experience of others. There are many homes that do not enjoy this marital happiness, even though the spouses have done their best to achieve it. This has happened because they made mistakes which rendered their efforts futile. To protect your happiness, beware of these mistakes and avoid the adversaries.

First and foremost, keeping the secrets of your home in general, and especially your intimate relations with your husband, is required under Sharee‘ah and is part of your worship of Allah The Almighty. In a Hadeeth on the authority of Asmaa’ bint Yazeed, may Allah be pleased with her, she said that she was once sitting with the Prophet, , while men and women were present and the Prophet, , said:“Perhaps a man says what he does with his wife [to others] and perhaps a woman says what she does with her husband.”The people remained silent.Asmaa’, may Allah be pleased with her, then said, “Yes, O Messenger of Allah, men and women do so.” He said:“Do not do this. [To do so] is as if a male devil meets a female devil in the street and has sexual intercourse with her while people are watching them.”

Psychologists stress the fact that the wife’s heart-to-heart talk with her (female) friends and disclosing her home secrets mostly result in worry more than comfort. It is true that she may feel temporarily and immediately comfortable, but worry will dominate her when these secrets are spread and she reaps regret and loss. No man is ever pleased with having his marital life’s secrets disclosed. Umaamah bint Al-Haarith warned her daughter against this (before her wedding night) in her well-known advice when she said, “…If you reveal his secret, you will not be safe from his betrayal…”

The secrets of the home are not of the same degree of importance. There are secrets about the private relations between the spouses, which they should keep only to themselves. We previously mentioned the warning of the Prophet, , against revealing such secrets.