Islam has established a set of wise rules to protect the family from dispute and disunity. It has also fixed firm principles that save the family from all kinds of problems, which disrupt the happiness of both spouses and put an end to affection and tranquility between them. Moreover, Islam has prevented everything that is likely to disunite family members or prevent the family from achieving its goals.

Out of our keenness to safeguard the Muslim family from all the problems it faces, it is important to alert the husband to some important mistakes which contribute considerably to the destruction of the family unit and sow the seeds of malice and hatred among its members. When these mistakes, as well as others, are avoided, we will have a “family without problems”, except the incidental ones which are part of human nature and which occurred in the homes of the Prophet, , such as jealousy among women. When the husband and wife are fully aware of their responsibilities and duties, they are capable of solving even incidental problems like this.

Piety and righteousness are the most important characteristics that the Muslim man should seek in a prospective wife. It was narrated that the Prophet, , said: "A woman is married for four (reasons): her wealth, noble family background, beauty, and religiousness. So, try to marry a religious woman, for otherwise your hands will cleave to dust (you lose)."

Commenting on this Hadeeth (narration), An-Nawawi said, "The sound interpretation of this Hadeeth is that the Prophet mentioned what people usually do as they look for these four characteristics in women. From their point of view, however, the religious one comes at the end. So, this is advice for the one who seeks guidance to marry a religious woman."

It was narrated that the Prophet, , said: "If a man whose religiousness and morals you (guardians) approve of proposes to you (to marry your daughters or women under your guardianship), then marry him; otherwise, there will be a temptation on earth and widespread corruption."

Moreover, pious and righteous people should be consulted on marriage, as Faatimah bint Qays, may Allah be pleased with her, did. It was narrated that she said, "I came to the Prophet and said, 'Abu Al-Jahm and Mu‘aawiyah proposed to me (at the same time).' The Messenger of Allah said:'Mu‘aawiyah is a poor man and Abu Al-Jahm never puts down his stick (beats women).'" [Muslim]

The Messenger of Allah, , investigated the conditions of the two men and concluded that the first was poor and the second used to beat women.

Many families have been destroyed during the first few months of marital life due to the lack of love and harmony between the husband and wife. Looking is the guide and leader of the heart. Therefore, the Messenger of Allah, , said to Al-Mugheerah, may Allah be pleased with him, when he proposed to a woman: "Look at her for this is more likely to create affection between you." Al-Mugheerah, may Allah be pleased with him, said, "So, I looked at her and then married her. She was the dearest of all women to me."