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Finds it difficult to forget a man she knew on the Internet
Fatwa No: 101495

Question

I am a girl from the maghreb countries, i ve known a person from the middle east countries via net for nearly 2 years. He was planning to come & engage me in december, but when he talked to his parents. They did not accept because i am from al maghreb. His father thinks that i am not well brought even if he has never met me. the problem is even if we broke up, i could not forget him. He was nice to me, religious, so on, & so forth.Before we split, he asked me to keep in touch What should i do? I can t carry on my life. Moreover, a person whom we know wants to marry me, but i can t start lie to him. I can t start a new life with another person , in the mean time, when i am in love with somebody else. I need ur advise plz wajazakom allah kola kher

Answer

All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.

 

First of all, we ask Allaah to facilitate for you a pious husband who will be a comfort to your eyes.

You should know that it is forbidden for males and females to establish affectionate relationships through the internet or other means. Therefore, you are obliged to stop this relationship with this young man and not to chat with him or with any other man in order to be safe with regards to your religion and dignity. For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 81356.

Hence, you should forget this man and stop thinking about him.

How do you know that marrying this man is good for you? Chatting on the internet is not a means of knowing the religion and conduct of a person. Therefore, you should consider this and other things which may help you to forget him. You may also refer to Fatwa 84544 about the treatment of love sickness.

As regards the other man who wants to marry you, then if he is religious and has a good moral conduct, then you should accept to marry him. In this case, he should approach your guardian for this purpose. He is a marriageable man to you, so he is not permitted to be in seclusion with you or commit other prohibitions with you until he conducts the marriage contract with you.

Allaah Knows best.

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