Salaamu aleikoum, I have a daughter from previous marriage who is now 14. She's been living with me in my care for all her life. I was Islamically married to my ex, but he never married me in the civil manner. It wasn't a good marriage, but I don't go into details publicly. He didn't sign her birth certificate aknowledging he is the father. We got divorced when my daughter was 1yr. He hasn't given her her rights as far as maintence, affection, etc. He's only seen her 4x in her life, and calls once a year. He mostly wants to talk to me. he's been more interested in what I'm doing, than her. 5yrs after the divorce I remarried then moved to a Muslim country. He knew about this and has no problem with it. During his calls, he wants to talk to me, asking about my life and demanding to take her for the summer. I've told him I rather him talk to my husband or directly to our daughter. I give daughter the phone. He makes her all kind of promies but yet to fulfill them. I have no problem giving him his right to relationship, but I think he needs to take baby step and prove himself1st. Start by calls, visits before demanding to take her. So I am asking, is it his right to take her (out of the country) for visits, while he really isn't doing his duty? What should we do, to make sure everyone is getting their rights? BarakAllahu fikoum

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