I got married to my cousin just a month ago. The nikkah was done, but culturally I have to have a separate ceremony to bring home my wife and complete the marriage. I wish to have sex with my wife but my mother wants to prevent this. My question is: Can anyone, including my mother, stop her son and his wife from having sex? Is this permissible for my mother? Another thing is that my wife is at the moment in Pakistan. I want her to come to England next month. My mother is in Pakistan also, but refuses to agree with me. My mother wants to come alone first, then go back after a few of months and then bring my wife to England. But I want my wife to come as soon as possible and do not accept my mothers idea. Does Islam allow my mother to control my marriage life? I fear that she will intervene in me and my wife's relationship whenever she wants to. I love both my mother and my wife, but cannot give up my haq. Please help me quickly.

All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.

May Allah bless for you, and bless upon you, and bring the two of you together in good.

We advise you to solve your problem wisely and carefully. Be calm and confident so that you can get rid of this dilemma without any negative effects.

No one has the right to prevent a husband from enjoying his wife, if the marriage was done in the legal way. But you should try to convince your mother by explaining to her your dire need to be with your wife, so that your life will be settled and you may guard yourself from evils. Inform her that these things are recommended in the Sharee'ah. Address her in terms of honour and ask her compassion with polite speech. Indeed a mother is always sympathetic and kind hearted.

Allah Knows best.