Salam Alaykom. I have a question. I know the wife has to obey her husband. But my husband has been steadily gaining weight and I am trying to help him with that. He always wants me to make him helow like hrisi and the like. I try to tell him that in order for him to lose weight, he should not eat helow that much. So I try not to make it for him. Am I being sinful for not making him helow when he wants? Please know that I want to make it for him but both of us are aware that he needs to lose some weight. Please note that he is not obese or overweight. PLease let me know if I should listen to him when he wants helow. Jazaallah.

All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.

If what your husband is asking you to do is something which a wife commonly does for her husband, and it is not difficult for you to do, and it does not harm him, then it appears that you are obliged to obey him in this. Authentic and clear narrations prove that a wife is obliged to obey her husband.

The issue whether or not such sweets cause harm is a matter which should be determined by specialists.

For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 86344.

Allaah Knows best.