Obeying parents takes precedence over marrying a certain man Fatwa No: 92340
- Fatwa Date:16-8-2006
salaam, my sister was working with a boy who is pakistani and we are indian and they fell in love to extreme and when parents came to know about it they were very angry they say there will be lot of problems regarding the two countries becoz in india, pakistani are like terrorist and when the govt come to know that they will put our family in trouble and second thing is that we dont know any thing of the boys family back home he said his parents are expired and he is not much educated and not having a good job too.we dont know any thing about him to marry him is like pushing her inthe well,we met some people to whom he said they are his relative but they said we try to convince him but he loves the girl its up to u they dont take any reponsibity.my parents are old and became sick due to this and mother is crying and beging to but in vain. please advice. will allah will love such a girl and she says in islam i have right to marry to whom i what. parents dead against the marriage and want her to marry a good religious boy. jazaakallah
All Perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger. We ask Allaah to exalt his mention as that of his family and all his companions.
If this man is religious and of good character then your parents should not object to this marriage without an Islamicly valid reason. Being from a different country is not a religious impediment to marrying her off to him. Many such marriages took place and resulted in happy families.
If your sister is interested in marrying this man then it is better for her to convince her parents to accept this marriage. If they accept then praise be to Allaah, otherwise, she has to obey her parents and should not marry this man. Obeying one's parents takes precedence over marrying a certain man. Most probably, if she fears Allaah and obeys her parents, Allaah will grant her a husband better than this one. Allaah Says (which means): {And whoever fears Allaah—He will make for him a way out. And will provide for him from where he does not expect.}[Quran 65:2-3].
Allaah Knows best.