assalam o alaikum I just got married ,it has been three months but for one and half month i am at my parents house as per my father-in law decision.He took this decision because; they were not satisfied with me. According to them my behaviour was not good enough with them,i treated them really well,(i cooked,served etc) i did all the work that they asked me to do but still they were not satisfied and complained to my husband that i dont treat them in a good manner and my husband use to fight with me over these issues being mentally tortured and irritated by these fights one day i asked him to give me divorce,my husband told his father about this and my father in law took the decision that i should be seperated from my husband as a punishment for 2 months and said that this issue now would be solved among people from my side my husband didnt oppose on this. in this time of seperation i got pregnant i informed my husband about it but he didnt even bother to contact me and even warned me that you've to complete that 2 months period and you are not suppose to contact me in this time of period,due to tensions i got miscarriage. what does shariya says about this act of my husband and father in law ?My husband and has influence of his parents on his decision.We didn't have any personel life,his father used to call him out form room at late night as well,then he told my husband not to be intimate with me more than once in one night.My husband further said once that he has married me so that i should serve his parents,and for his parents he doesnt cares less about a thousand girls like me.I further checked it here with some one if there was a case of magic,they said that my father-in law and my elder sis-in law has done some magic on my husband.I want to ask who would be responsible for this upset in my marriage?My in-laws or my husband? Can magic change ones nature? What conditions should i lay before going back to him?

All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.

Good relationship should prevail between the spouses in marital life especially if this life is at its beginning. So, both spouses should understand each other and they should discuss the problems that might occur between them. Allaah Says (what means): {And due to the wives is similar to what is expected of them, according to what is reasonable.}[Quran 2:228] Allaah also Says (what means): {And do not forget graciousness between you.} [Quran 2:237]

The wife is not religiously obliged to live with the relatives of her husband; rather, she has the right to get a separate accommodation as we clarified in Fatwa 84608. Therefore, if you live with the parents of your husband in the same house, you have the right to ask your husband for a private accommodation, and this accommodation may be a part of the same house of the family but with separate amenities. However, if this accommodation is far from them, then this could be better.

Furthermore, a wife is not obliged to serve and care for the parents of her husband as we previously clarified in Fatwa 84909. Hence, if your husband really told you that he got married to you in order to serve his parents, then he is wrong and he is not permitted to blame you if you do not do so.

However, if the parents of the husband claim that the wife (of their son) is mistreating them and is negligent about their right, the husband should find out the truth and not hasten to blame her or do anything to her. If it is confirmed that she did so, he should advise her as she might regain her senses. But, it is not permissible to drive her out of the house and he is not obliged to obey his parents if they order him to do so, because obedience is required only in what is permissible. Nonetheless, if the house belongs to the father, he (the father) may drive her out of it, in which case, the husband is obliged to provide her with a separate accommodation as we previously discussed.

On the other hand, the father should not interfere in the private life of the spouses, like sexual intercourse and the like. As for the answer of your husband to you when you informed him that you are pregnant, it is not a suitable answer.

In any case, we can not determine whether the cause of these problems is your husband or his parents or someone else. Besides, it is not permissible to accuse your parents in-law for having done magic to your husband without evidence. However, magic is a reality and it affects the person and his behavior but none of this happens except with the Will of Allaah; Allaah Says (what means): {And [yet] they learn from them that by which they cause separation between a man and his wife. But do not harm anyone through it except by permission of Allaah.} [Quran 2:102]

Finally, you are not obliged to condition anything on your husband except to live with you in kindness and offer you a separate accommodation as this will prevent problems with his parents.

Allaah Knows best.