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Fatwa CenterShe loves a man other than her jobless and impotent husband
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Asaalamu Alaikum I am a married muslim woman and I have had problems with my husband, he has fertile problems and he does not like working, I am the breadwinner in the house, and our relationship got really bad, in meantime I met a man who I love and he loves me, I am thinking of divorcing my husband since he is not able to fulfill the main essential islam duties, but I am afraid that Allah will punish me for leaving him, in meantime I know that I will be happy with other muslim man, I have not commited zina with him but we have been out together (me and him only), I really want an advice from someone who has knowledge, I want to be able to have a child as well, do not know what to do? Please help
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All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad 
is His slave and Messenger.
First of all, you must cut any relationship with that man that you mentioned that he loves you and you love him as it is not permissible for a Muslim woman to have an affectionate relationship with a non-Mahram man as we clarified in Fatwa 81356. If this is done by a married woman, then the sin is even greater as, in this case, the wife has disobeyed her Lord and has been negligent about the right of her husband. Therefore, you are obligated to take the initiative to repent before you feel regret the day the death comes to you, but then it is too late. For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 86527.
If that man urges you to seek divorce from your husband so that he would marry you, then he is spoiling your marital relationship with your husband and this is a forbidden matter. For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 92056.
Moreover, some scholars are of the view that it is forbidden for a man to marry the woman whose relationship with her husband has been spoilt by him, but the majority of the scholars 
are not of this opinion.
On the other hand, a husband is obligated to spend on his wife, so if the husband does not fulfill this obligation, the wife may take the case to an Islamic judge or whoever may act on his behalf so that he would remove the harm off her.
As regards having children, then there is no doubt that having children is one of the most important objectives of marriage, and it is for this reason that the Prophet said: ''Marry women who are loving and prolific (in giving birth), as I shall outnumber the other nations by you." [Ahmad, Abu Daawood and An-Nasaa’i]
So, you may ask your husband to seek treatment and then if his treatment is facilitated, all praise be to Allaah, and if not, then it appears – Allaah knows best – that you may ask for divorce due to the harm of not having children and therefore missing one of the most important objectives of marriage.
Allaah Knows best.
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