Hugging and Kissing While Greeting
Fatwa No: 377560

Question

Salam aleikum wa rahmatu Llahi wa barakatu.1 i read in some fatwes when a muslim meet his brother he shoud not kiss him because it is not from sunna but only tighten his hand ( Is it True?). I want know if these position is the same for relatives: when i meet my grandmother or grandfather, aunt, uncle, ecc can i kiss or embrace him or her? 2 when i arrive late to mosque during the prayer how should i pray with imam. If i lost the first tashahud, how shoud i do second tashhahud ? If i lost first raka'a, in the second raka'a do i do tashahud? Baraka Llahu fikum ou jazakum Llahu khairan.

Answer

All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) is His slave and Messenger.

We have clarified in the icon of entering the question that it is only allowed to send one question at a time in the space provided, and that it is only the first question will be answered in case the questioner asked more than one question. Hence, we will answer your first question.

it seems that you are referring to the Hadeeth narrated by At-Tirmithi and Anas ibn Maalik, who said:

A man said: O Messenger of Allah, when a man amongst us meets his brother or his friend should he bend down to him?” He  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) said: “No.” The man continued: “Should he hug him and kiss him?” He  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) said: “No.” The man again asked: “Should he take his hand and shake it?” He  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) said: “Yes.

The scholars said that the instruction not to embrace or kiss the person one meets entails that it is disliked and not prohibition.

An-Nawawi  may  Allaah  have  mercy  upon  him said in Al-Majmoo’:

As for hugging and kissing the face of a person upon meeting him, except for one who returned from travel and a child, then this is disliked; Al-Baghawi and others explicitly stated that it is disliked.” [End of quote]

When interpreting the Hadeeth by Anas  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  him the author of Mirqaat Al-Masaabeeh, said:

The scholars who are of the view that hugging and kissing are disliked provided evidence of this Hadeeth. It was also said that kissing is not disliked if it is due to the asceticism, knowledge, or old age of the person (kissed or hugged). An-Nawawi  may  Allaah  have  mercy  upon  him said: "Kissing the hands of others if it is because of their knowledge, piety (refraining from what is forbidden), asceticism, and religious devotion, and other related religious matters, then it is not disliked. Rather, it is desirable. However, if it is due to his richness or honor in worldly matters, then it is disliked, and there is another view which says that it is forbidden.” [End of quote]

Moreover, there is no harm in kissing the hand of the grandmother, parents and other relatives. There is evidence in the Sunnah that it is permissible to kiss the hands of relatives out of mercy or to honor them. The mother of the believers ‘Aa’ishah  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  her said: “I have never seen someone who resembled the Messenger of Allah  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) in conduct, calm deportment and pleasant disposition more than Faatimah, may Allah honor her face. When she came to visit him (the Prophet), he would get up to (welcome) her, take her by the hand, kiss her and make her sit where he was sitting. Whenever he visited her, she would get up to (welcome) him, take him by the hand, kiss him, and make him sit where she was sitting.” [At-Tirmithi and Abu Daawood]

Allah knows best.

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