His Heart Was Torn Apart as He Discovered Illicit Relationship of His Wife
Fatwa No: 449110

  • Fatwa Date:19-10-2021 - Rabee' Al-Awwal 13, 1443
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Question

Assalamalekum, I have been married for 10 years to my wife, we have 2 children, a daughter (4.5 years) And a son (3 years old). My wife had stopped loving me since some years coz of financial problems, She always complained about my low salary that I could not afford a better living, so she was also a working woman, we had a family friend (who is also married and has 3 kids) who supported us financially so much. And lately I have found out that they both are in love and keep chatting and talking on phone secretly. I caught her phone and I read all the chats about their relationship, which tore apart my heart. I have sent her (with kids) to our home country to her mother and was going to divorce her. But she is asking for one last chance for the sake of kids, she says she is embarrassed and sorry for what she did, she promises not to repeat her mistake.She says it was just only on phone and chats, but its very hard for me to trust her again.I don’t have any evidence of them going alone somewhere in privacy.I just saw chats which was too much.She keeps asking for the second chance and patch up to save our little kids.I miss my kids as well, I want to be with them, what shall I do? I am so heart broken and hurt.Its very hard for me to forgive her, but I can try.Shall I give her one last final chance for the sake of Kids?Please guide.

Answer

All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) is His slave and Messenger.

If it becomes clear to you that your wife has sincerely repented from this relationship, then our advice to you is to return her to your home and keep good ties with her, and forgive the past, as repentance wipes out previous sins and whoever repents sincerely from sin is like the one who has never committed a sin.

Hence, you should fulfill your responsibility in your home and close the doors of temptation from your wife.

It is not permissible to be lenient regarding the relationship of the wife with non-Mahram men on the pretext that the man is a friend of the family, or other lame excuses and false arguments.

You should strive to teach your wife what she needs of her religion and cooperate in obeying Allah and getting closer to Him.

But if it appears to you that your wife has not repented of this relationship, then you should not hesitate in separating from her.

Allah knows best.

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