1) Is it allowed to have sex in the shower? Can a couple just make love in the shower w/o having sex?2) I will be married soon. How should I confront my wife about sex? Should we do it the first night?
Praise be to Allah, the Lord of the World; and may His blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad and upon all his Family and Companions.
It is lawful in Islam to have sex with one's wife in any place as long as nobody can hear or see such an action.
In al-Iqnaa book 'A husband can get pleasure from his wife and have sex at anytime and through anyway, even from behind, as long as the male's erect penis is inserted into the female's vagina.
Also, such an action should not prevent her from performing her religious obligations nor harm her. She has to satisfy his need even if she is making bread or mounting an animal.
In al-Musnad from Hadith Ibn Abu Aufa: "She has to satisfy her husband's need even if she is mounting an animal". This means that a wife is advised to stop her work in order to satisfy her husband's need.
As for your other questions please read the Fatawa:
81608 and 82908.
Allah knows best.
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