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Fatwa CenterHer fiance’ has suddenly turned away from her
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Assalam Walaikum iam very much depressed from the current situation in my life,i got engaged to this guy name Wasif 2 years before we know each other since school days he was my friend then he proposed me for love i accepted it,he was a huge flirt he was having many girlfriends still i dragged him out that girlfriends and bought him to myself ,we got engaged then due to recession he got some finance problems and soon he started behavibg diffrently this guy wasif use to love me lots lots but soon he started hating me and started hurting me mentally i told all the pain coz i love him lot,i was shocked him seeing changed eevrytime he use to see me or talk to me he was getting angry then again he was guilty in the morning for his behaviour and use to apologize me and i forgive,but 2 months ago when we planed to meet up then we both lied saying we r going some place near by and we met ,then when we were together my mom calld me on my cell that time i was wit wasif,i lied saying we r shoping wit wasif parents then my sister tricked my mom to call up wasif landline and my mom cald up wasif home,wasif parents stay in india and my parents and myself stay in oman,so we meet seldom.when my mom cald wasif home then she came to know we lied and met so wasif parents were very angry and said cheap stuff about me(arshiya) which my mom could not take it,so she raised her voice and wasif dad raised voice too evryhng ruined,when all this thing went in front of wasif he said i dont wanan a girl whose parents dont respect my father he made up his mind and he left me i cried lot i begged lot still no use,he was so sweetheart but he changed,some people said its black magic and i dont know what to do and how to seek help from Allah iam crying in DUwa but nothing is effecting my entire family knows about our relation ,now everyone know about break up so people are saying sarcastic comments about me(arshiya)and i dont know what to do iam planning to kill myself coz wasif dont want to return
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad 
is His slave and Messenger.
First of all, we advise you to repent immediately as you were wrong for two reasons:
1- Establishing an affectionate relationship with a non-Mahram man and this is forbidden in Islam; for more benefit, please refer to Fataawa 81356 and 86143.
2- Lying to your mother: this is a double sin: lying and being undutiful to your parent.
Therefore, you should sincerely repent to Allaah. Indeed, a person may be afflicted due to a sin that he committed. Allaah Says (what means): {And whatever strikes you of disaster — it is for what your hands have earned; but He pardons much.}[Quran 42:30]
Besides, a sin is darkness in the heart, and a good deed is a light in the heart as stated by Ibn ‘Abbaas 
. Look how your sin has led to another calamity, which is the disputes between the two families, and thus is the evil consequences of sin.
Moreover, it does not seem that this young man turned away from you because of magic; rather, it appears that the aforementioned things that happened were the reason he turned away from you.
In any case, we advise you not to embarrass yourself by attaching your heart to a man who does not want you as a wife, it might be that Allaah repelled an evil from you; Allaah Says (what means): {Perhaps you dislike a thing and Allaah makes therein much good.}[Quran 4:19] Therefore, we advise you to be steadfast on performing good deeds and supplicate Allaah as much as possible to facilitate for you a pious husband who would be a comfort to your eyes. If a person who is religious and has a good moral conduct loves his wife, he would honor her, and if he hates her, he would not humiliate her.
As regards committing suicide, this is something that you should not think about, let alone committing it. Suicide leads the person to eternal misery and a manifest loss. Allaah Says (what means): {And of the people is he who worships Allaah on an edge. If he is touched by good, he is reassured by it; but if he is struck by trial, he turns on his face [to the other direction]. He has lost [this] world and the Hereafter. That is what the manifest loss is.}[Quran 22:11] For more benefit on warning against suicide, please refer to Fataawa 81819 and 84296.
Concerning your relatives’ sarcastic comments about you, then this is not permissible; Allaah Says (what means): {O you who have believed, let not a people ridicule [another] people; perhaps they may be better than them.}[Quran 49:11] Hence, we advise you to be patient with them, advise them with good and soft words, and remind them of Allaah.
Allaah Knows best.
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