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Fatwa CenterHe proposed to his cousin but she and her family refused him
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Asalam-o-Alikum brother/Sisiter Here is my situation I am from Pakistan and have been living in Canada for 12 years now. I am 27 years old now and I work in Pearson Internation Air port as a n assisstant supervisor manager (AVIA-Mngr). I get paid very well thanks to ALLLAH (SWT) - 70 Grand yearly income.I pray 5 x a day and try my best to follow MUhammad (p.B.U.H) way of life. What has happened is recently me and my parents went to Pakistan because they want me to marry someone there. When we reach Pakistan and I chose my cousin as the person that I wish to marry. My cousin and her parents reject our offer without giving us any proper excuse to why they are opposing our request to extend relationship. The thing is that they are the only family we have others are just (ghair). And my parents don't want me to marry someone else they say that its best to marry your own rather than ghair people. I tried to talk to them when I was coming back to Canada I told them about what kind of job I do and that I try my best to stay focus on islamic way of life. They said "we are not interested in your proposal and anyway our daughter is a doctor and you are just only a manager." It really hurted me to hear these words from them I never expected that from them.. My question is > Is it permitted in Islam to reject someone for marriage just because of their occupation. My second question is> Should I go back to Pakistan to tell them more about myself and motivate them to accept my proposal My third question is > Is it permitted in Islam to stay un-married for rest of the life.Meaning If one wished to stay single because they want to be with particular person after life forever-is it permitted in Islam or not?? if not what should I do (please guide me to the right of the way I just don't know what to do)...
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad 
is His slave and Messenger.
According to the most preponderant opinion of the scholars 
what should be taken into account when considering the suitability for marriage is religion and good moral conduct, and this is what the Sharee’ah advocates as we clarified in Fatwa 90797.
Therefore, a guardian of a woman should not refuse someone who proposes to her just because of his profession and the like.
However, it is permissible for you to try to convince your uncle once again to agree that you marry his daughter. If he is convinced, then this is good and by this you would be dutiful to your parents. But if your uncle insists on refusing, then you should look for another woman to marry and if you find a pious woman from the family, then this is good, but if you only find her outside the family, then you should try to convince your parents to agree that you marry her. If they agree, praise to Allaah, and if they refuse, and their refusal leads to not marrying at all or delaying the marriage while there is a need for precipitating it, then it becomes permissible for you to marry her even without their consent and you should try to please them later.
As regards totally refraining from marriage, then this is contrary to the Sunnah of the Prophet and a Muslim should not resort to this whether with the intention of marrying a specific woman in the Hereafter or for any other purpose. Rather, a Muslim should endeavor to marry whenever possible especially in our present times as there are so many reasons of affliction and temptation. For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 132718.
Allaah Knows best.
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