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Fatwa CenterTheir mother does not want them to contact half siblings by their father's previous marriage
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My dad was married before my mom, and he has 2 sons and a daughter, and they are old now, like in their mind 20's, and they want to talk to me and my brothers and sisters, and my dad tells us to call them, but my mom gets mad at us, and she starts cursing and screaming and yelling at us, she always says bad stuff about them, she hates them, and I love my brothers and we all want to call them and talk to them and see them, but my mom is in our ways, and we don't know what to do, will you please tell me what should we do, Please do not post this Fatwa online.
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad 
is His slave and Messenger.
There is no doubt that a mother has a great and honourable position and Islam emphasized on being kind and dutiful to her. Allaah says (what means): {And we have enjoined on man to be kind and dutiful to his parents. His mother bears him with hardship. And she brings him forth with hardship.}[Quran 46:15]
When the Prophet was asked about who has more right of one's companionship, he replied: "Your mother, your mother, your mother, then your father, then the closest relatives to you." [Muslim]
However, obeying her and being dutiful to her should only be in what is permissible and when she orders her children to disobey Allaah, they should not obey her. The Prophet said: "Obedience is required only in what is permissible." [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
Therefore, it is not permissible for you to obey her in cutting ties with the kinship as cutting ties with kinship is not permissible under any circumstances. Nonetheless, if you are sure that by visiting them you will be harmed, then you are obliged to obey your mother and not visit them. In such a case you have to contact them by the available means of communications, like telephoning them and the like.
Allaah Knows best.
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