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Last 8 years my brothers are not talking to me because I asked them to invest with my friend who cheated all of us and fleed. I try to reconcile but they are avoiding me. But I still salam (shake hands) with but they wont even look at my face. Should I continue doing this or stop. In ramadan I heard one Imam said a person who cut family relations will not even get the rewards of lailatul qadar.Is it true and how to go about to have better relations with them. plse help.
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger. We ask Allaah to exalt his mention as well as that of his family and all his companions.
There is no doubt that your brothers cutting ties of kinship with you, as you mentioned in the question, is contrary to Allaah's Orders and the teachings of His Prophet 
about keeping ties with kinship.
Therefore, we advise you to continue keeping ties of kinship with them even if they cut you off. Imaam Muslim 
reported that a man came to the Prophet and said: "O Messenger of Allaah, I have relatives with whom I uphold the ties of kinship but they cut me off; I treat them well but they mistreat me; I am patient with them and they harm me.” The Prophet said: “If it is as you say, then it is as if you are stuffing hot ashes [in their mouths], and you will continue to be supported by Allaah against them so long as you continue to be like that." ["Stuffing hot ashes" means your kindness to them in spite of their harshness is like feeding them hot ash for the sin they are committing by their wrong deeds].
Therefore, you should continue to keep ties with your brothers and avoid cutting relations with them, and clarify to them that cutting relations is one of the destructive great major sins. You should seek the help of the relatives and friends whom you think would influence them.
As regards what you mentioned that the person who cuts relations would not get the reward of Laylatul-Qadr (the Night of Decree), then we are not aware of any evidence in this regard.
However, there is no doubt that the cutting of relations results in one being prevented from much good.
One narration reads: "When Allaah created the womb, the womb proclaimed: "O Allaah! I seek refuge with you from all those who sever me. Allaah said: "Yes, are you not satisfied that I should hold with him who holds you and sever connection with him who severs you? It said: "I am satisfied." Allaah said: ''Then, this is yours (i.e. your supplication is answered)."
Therefore, Allaah threatened to cut ties with he who cuts ties with his kinship. An-Nawawi said: 'The ties from Allaah come in the form of His Mercy and Grace, Kindness and Bounties.'
For more benefit, please refer to Fataawa 85794 and 83031.
Allaah Knows best.
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