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Fatwa CenterHer mother refuses to let her marry him because he does not own a house
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I am female, 20 yrs i pray and fast and am trying to be religious.. i have a boy friend which i knew one year ago form my college and we started talking on the phone everyday and going out together .. then he told me that he loves me and i did also. he asked to drive me home and i told him that i cant get in his car because its not good if anyone saw us and he convinced me at the end ,, every day we go with each other to college ..he kissed me in the car many times and also hug me i cant say details but we did everything you can imagine but am still version,because we were be careful from this point ...then he graduated last summer ,he is older than me only by one year...he started working,he asked me to tell my mother to meet his mother and then they came home to us to propose and both of us were very happy that everything gonna be serious and in front of everyone.. then when they came my brother told me that his salary is not enough to live the same level i do now ,, i told him that sure one day his salary will increase,, my mother asked him about his house and the problem that his father cant help him and he will give him his grandmother house but she is still alive and my mother didnt agree because this is the only option for his house and she dont want me to be engaged without house available for us ,she told me no one knows how is going to die before who and maybe i die before his grand mother ! and she dont agree about renting house till his grandmother house can be available for us.. and now my mother hates him and asked to dont talk with him again and even dont see him again!! but all i can say that i really love him and he also do,he makes me happy and i try to let him pray everyday,,his mother is religious and she loves me and same to his sister.I still talk to him and see him when i can,but my mom told me that she dont want him,he is very good person and i agree to live in a lower level than i live now and we can make money
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad 
is His slave and Messenger.
It is forbidden for a Muslim woman to have an affectionate relationship with a non-Mahram man because this is a means that leads to corruption as we clarified in Fatwa 81356.
Indeed, what happened between you and this young man is the best evidence of what we mentioned; look how the devil led both of you to disobedience and sin. Therefore, you should take the initiative to repent before it is too late. You should be very careful not to be lured by the devil to commit with this young man what is even more heinous and abominable, which is committing Zina (fornication); Allaah Says (what means): {O you who have believed, do not follow the footsteps of Satan. And whoever follows the footsteps of Satan - indeed, he enjoins immorality and wrongdoing.}[Quran 24:21] For more benefit on the conditions of repentance, please refer to Fatwa 86527.
The best thing to which the lovers could be advised to do is marriage; Ibn ‘Abbaas 
narrated that the Prophet said: “The best thing for two lovers is marriage.” Therefore, if this man is able to provide you with accommodation even by renting, then you should try to convince your mother to agree that he marries you, and you should seek the help of the people who are close to her to intercede for you. If she agrees, then this is what is required, otherwise you should stop thinking about this young man and stop being attached to him, and ask Allaah to bless you with a pious husband. For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 84544.
Allaah Knows best.
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